Episode 14: Monsters Under My Bed (and in my head) Part 1

Main idea: The importance of supporting one another through mental health challenges.

  • Who we are:
    • I’m Kasie, I’m in Columbia. I’m homeschooling my daughter (age 12).
    • Alex, in the Low Country parenting a little man (18 months) earned 30% of the vote in a State House race.
    • I’m Melissa in the Low Country, 3 kids in elementary school, candidate for County Council in a 3-way race and earned 5% of the vote
    • I’m Jessica, Upstate, mom to two boys.
  • The purpose and scope of the episode- 
    • Mental health is a hot-button topic right now. We’re all disconnected and divided. How do we know when we need help? How do we ask for it? 
  • Today’s topic: 
    • Jessica: I suffer from anxiety and I also battle depression. I grew up in a family where that was not something we talked about. It took a long time for me to be comfortable talking about mental health out loud.
      • My postpartum depression with my second son was the first red flag for me. I battle suicidal thoughts regularly, almost daily. I rely on friends and my husband, for help. And it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s an illness like any other illness and I think it’s important to have these conversations.
        • Let’s approach it from the perspective of the importance of taking care of one another (voluntarism) and looking out for one another and how we do that.
        • A couple years ago my dad got really sick while he was on vacation out west. I had to rush to Denver where we spent a week with him at the hospital. We found out he has leukemia. When I got home, a neighbor friend asked if I wanted to walk one afternoon and I told her I had a ton to catch up on and what was going on. She came and got my kids, gave me a few hours to adjust and do what I needed to do. And she brought a meal, food for a few days, something that just took that small task off my list.
    • Melissa: For my birthday, my husband and son went camping and my mom and grandmother took my daughters and I had 22 hours of alone time in my home. I don’t know how people raise kids with no families around. I firmly believe “it takes a village” – not just for the kids to interact with other people with different views but for a break for the parents. I have no problem asking for a break or taking other moms’ kids so they can have a break.
    • Alex: I’m not usually comfortable asking for help, so that is definitely something I will be working on (in addition to being very inspired by Jessica and Melissa and their experiences and accepting help). A very kind friend of mine made us seven freezer meals when Perry was born and that blew me away. I desire to be that type of friend and also be better about accepting help! (Recommended book–The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry)
    • Being mindful of other people, looking for and offering ways to help
      • Let me come get your kids
      • Can we have a family date?
  • Coming up on the next episode: 
    • Not sure yet but we’re thinking about Free Range Parenting and Mommin’ Ain’t Hard. Stay tuned. 
  • Follow us on all the socials
  • Thanks and goodbye

Published by kasiewhitener

Author of After December, host of Write On SC, YouTube channels for both and blogging like it's my job at http://kasiewhitener.com

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: